3 “I AM” Success Beliefs

Posted By on August 16, 2019


– Everyone says person
of element is cliche, until they’re in crisis, right? Everyone believes person
of element is cliche, until it’s required that
they go to the next level. Then they’re like, give
me all I can get, right? Once you’re in transition
or your challenge, you’re really frustrated, those are the times person
of the elem really matters. Forgive me if some of these
phrases might sound cliche, it’s just that’s how people talk and it is fundamental to you succeeding. Let’s talk about the bubble of You. The three beliefs that you have to have to achieve long term success, at least based on my
interviews and experience. Number one belief, I am being or trying to be congruent with the best
of who I know I can be. The last five days were you really trying to be congruent with
the best of who you are? Meaning, you know the best of who you are, you know your values. You woke up everyday and you’re like, “I’m being congruent with
the best of who I am.” Or were you just going through
the emotions of the day? Were you just reacting throughout the day? Were you actually comparing
yourself to other people and letting it get you down? Were you aware of what makes you unique and living into that uniqueness? Living into your values and attempting consistently
and conscientiously to be the best of who you are or were you going through
the motions this last week? What I found with high performers, is they’re more consistently
testing their congruence against the standard of their best self, against the standard of what
we call their highest self. It’s easy not to do that, especially when you’re good. Especially when you’re talented. Especially when things are going well, you can just get up and go through the day and do a good job, but what happens over a series of weeks, is one day you don’t feel like
you’re really on your path when you’re just going
through the motions. One day you wake and you’re kinda like, man, I feel like I’m in a funk and you don’t even know
why you’re in a funk. You don’t know why
things don’t pop for you. You don’t feel like there’s
momentum in your life. You want to talk about
real misery in your life? Be out of congruence. If you’re a person whose identity says, I am a healthy, positive,
caring, goal-oriented person and you just know that’s who you are, but then you’re not congruent with that, that’s where misery comes in. If you identify yourself, the best of who you are, you know you’re a healthy person, but for five nights in
a row you got drunk, five nights in a row you ate crappy food, five days in a row you ate too much, you know at the end of the week that does affect your psyche. Why the dis matter? Because when you don’t have that belief that I am being congruent or I feel like I’m trying to be congruent with the best of who I am, then self hate comes in, then that negative, sorta
framing of everything, I’m not good, I’m terrible,
all that stuff comes in. And it’s not because, listen, attempting to be congruent
with the best of who you are does not necessarily mean that everyday you are the absolute best of who you are and everything was perfect and
you were totally congruent. Listen to the phrasing here, I am attempting to live in congruence with the best of who I can be. I’m trying, it’s an active,
thoughtful, discipline approach. It’s not like, yeah I had
a great week, Brandon. It’s not about did you have a great week. A lot of high performers who I’ve met, they did have a great week, their peers are like, “Oh my god, she’s crushing it. “Oh my gosh, I can’t believe she can “manage all those kids so well. “I can’t believe that they’re
running the business.” People see you and are
impressed by your achievement, they’re impressed by the
external reality of your success. You can have a lot of
momentum in your life, but if physiologically,
even if it’s unconscious, that you know you’re not
truly living in accordance with the best of who you can be, if physiologically, you
know you’re incongruent with the best of who you can be, it starts like grating at you and over a period of time what this does, think about it, when you’re not congruent you’re just kinda grating at
your confidence unconsciously. You might not even know it. It’s just like everyday I wasn’t my best. Everyday I didn’t try to do something and show who I am. Everyday I wasn’t authentic and suddenly over a period of time, that lack of congruence just bores a hole right in your confidence and you don’t even know why. You just wake up one day
not feeling yourself. Then it becomes this big challenge because maybe you haven’t had training like this on congruence and now it feels like this
big existential dilemma. “Oh my god, something’s
wrong with the universe, something’s wrong with me,” and the reality is you just weren’t trying often enough to be congruent with the best of who you can be. Second big one is, I am capable or possibly capable of achieving the future that I want. Capability, I am capable is everything. Now here’s the thing, you don’t have to believe
you have all the competencies that are necessary to succeed. You have to believe that you
are capable of getting them. There’s so many things that
I know, right now today, that I am incapable of. I am incapable of many things ’cause I don’t have the skill set yet, but I believe that I am capable. You give me enough
time, energy, resources, mentorship, hard work,
and days at something, I will figure it out, I
will develop that skill, I will achieve. This is how high performers think. It’s so clear, under performers, they get stuck stewing on
what they are not capable at, so they stop forward momentum. They go, “I’m not good
at that”, so they stop. “I never learned to do
that,” so they stop. I suck at this thing
over here, so they stop. You’ve seen it before with
the research on mind set where high performers
have a growth mindset, under performers tend
to have a fixed mindset. That fixed mindset means,
they fix on their identity, who they believe they are
and what their capable of. They think their knowledge, skills, talents, and abilities are fixed. They were born that way and are stuck that way in some ways or that there’s a top to their potential. Were high performers
have that growth mindset where they really believe, no, I’m capable of becoming more. I’m capable of figuring it out. I am capable of busting through. I am capable of getting the knowledge, skills, and abilities that are
necessary for me to succeed and that is what is a
motivating driver for them. Here’s the test, if you have been lacking confidence or motivation to
go for those bigger goals, somewhere in your psychology, you do not believe that you are capable. Not believing that you are
capable is why you stopped. Even if you have all the reasons in the world to be confident, people like ya, you’ve
achieved things in the past, you’re a good person, you
believe in your worth, even if you have all that, but if you don’t believe you’re
capable of breaking through or getting that next level of skill, that’s why you’ve stopped. Listen, the nice thing about
capability is to get it, you only need a few things. The first thing you need if
you want to feel more capable, you gotta make sure that you
are very clear on the map, you gotta know step one, two and three, and you gotta go, the goal doesn’t need to be in your mind, “I’m gonna achieve step 70,” what we really need to do is start working step one, two and three. Just work it. Capability, the belief of capability is tied to momentum. You gotta take those
first couple of steps. The third one in your
little bubble of You is, I am worthy or deserving of
having extraordinary success. I am worthy or deserving of
having extraordinary success. Listen, most people who really live a little below their
potential here’s their belief, “I am worthy or deserving of survival.” Literally stops at that. Their belief and their envisioning for what their life is
worth and who they are is low ball, their standard is so low. Most people standard in
their worth is survival. I deserve to have food. I’m worthy of having a job. I am worthy of making rent. They don’t say, I am worthy
one day of flying in that jet. You know what, I am
deserving of having a deep, connecting, magical, sensual marriage. They’re just like, I
deserve a good husband and it stops there. I’m worthy of good is sometimes
why you only ever got good. Sometimes people’s belief
matches up with their worth in such a way, that they
don’t get to experience the brighter colors of life. All they ever get to
experience is baseline, good. Because I am worthy of survival. I’m worthy of paying the rent. I deserve to have a good husband. I deserve to have happy kids. But they don’t think about depth, they don’t think about richness, they don’t think about abundance. Their belief is always
I deserve good things and if your belief is just good things, good things is all you get. You need to adopt the
belief that you deserve an extraordinary quality of life and whatever it takes to achieve that. If you gotta repeat that
motto to yourself over and over again, do that. Look at the subtitle of this book, I don’t know if you guys noticed, how extraordinary people became that way. Not how good people, not how great people, how extraordinary people. The reason that I put that word down is because so many of the
300 bad asses I interviewed for this, used that word. They didn’t want good. They didn’t just think they deserved good, they thought they deserved
something special. They thought they deserved and were worthy of that magical part of life
where things have vibrancy and zest and pop. Where the adverbs and
the adjectives had color and richness that were so different than what the regular mundane person wants who just has gray walls
built around them of belief. Where it’s all just enough or always just great. That look, yeah, high performers want more for themselves and their families. A high performer doesn’t
feel bad about saying, you know what, I want
to make a 100 thousand, I want to make a quarter of a million, I want a make a million. There’s no guilt to that because they believe that
they are worthy of it. It doesn’t mean they always believe, I deserve it because sometimes
they’re not doing the work and it’s hard to believe
you deserve something if you’re not doing the work. You can feel worthy of it because you’re a child of God, because you have been a good person and a trust worthy person and a giving person, because you want good
things for other people and you want good things for yourself, but you also know that makes you worthy because you care. The fact that you are a person
right here with us right now, who’s interested in person of element, who’s working on yourself, who’s looking at these
concepts not through criticism or skepticism, but rather saying, wow
is there something here that I could embrace that could help me feel better about the day? Help me be a better leader? The fact that you’re here alone, makes you worthy of the next level. The work will make you deserving, the belief will make you feel worthy. You deserve and you are worthy of climbing that next level and if you don’t tell yourself that, it’s easy to sit back. Take what you get. Feel grateful for it, I know a lot of people who
are deeply grateful for life, but because they don’t feel worthy, they’re broke. How’s that for a mind screw. They’re grateful. They’re practicing what
all these books say, be grateful, live a grateful life. Life is precious. Do your gratitude journal so
you write in your gratitude journal and everything else. I know a lot of grateful
people who are miserable because they don’t
believe that they are also worthy of more. They’re grateful but they’ve
settled for a crappy marriage. They’re grateful but they’ve
settled for being in bad shape. They’re grateful but
they’ve settled for a job that’s beneath them. You have to be in that place where you go, you know what, I am worthy
of being around A players, I’m worthy of being paid well I am worthy of achieving that next level, I’m worthy of an extraordinary
experience in my life. Because if you don’t have worth, you can have the gratitude in the world and still be emotionally broke. That’s the challenge that
most people don’t see. That’s why a lot of the self
help that gets criticized to just be happy, be happy, be happy, be grateful, be grateful, be grateful is criticized by practitioners like myself and go, I know a lot of grateful people who can’t break through. If you’re grateful without worthiness, you won’t work, you won’t excel, you won’t challenge yourself. You have to feel worthy, ready, deserving of the next level and you gotta put in the work to it. Which I know you know, I’m just sharing what
high performers shared. It is the distinction
between high performers and under performers. This is what high performers believe, I am congruent and
attempting to be congruent with the best of who I am. I am capable of figuring things out and going to another level and building a future I deserve and I am worthy of
experiencing an extraordinary quality of life.

Posted by Lewis Heart

This article has 100 comments

  1. Success should be worked towards. Don't expect fast results. If you want shortcuts in life, you have already lost.

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  2. Thank you Brendon. It's a life changing video for and you made me realize that i need to change my mindset. 🙏🙏🙏

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  3. cool content, hi from Ukraine, subscribe to your channel and gary vee, learn english and listen to useful information, thank you!

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  4. This is one of my favorite videos you’ve done, Brendon! 👏🏼👏🏼Excellent advice; I’m encouraged! Keep bringing joy & inspiring others 🙂 God bless. 🌟

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  5. @Brendon.com
    Brendon, I really love your content. I signed up for Experts Academy many years ago. I recently tried to re-watch the videos, but I realize that the videos are no longer working. I have tried dropping an email to your support team, and I have also dropped you a personal email, but have not received any response in the last 1-2 weeks. It is probably not the right forum to post here, but I feel out of options to reach you.

    I understand you are busy and I hope you can put someone on your team to look into this matter. Thank you.

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  6. This book is extraordinary!!! I got my copy already! And I wanna share something else here: I follow Brendon since 4 years! I read all his books, by taking notes and bringing them into my life. And YES…I am shifting my life to the next level! It is a routine of discipline that worth each second! And now this book is bringing the key hints that were missing to carry on the journey!! I am very thankful but more than that my mindset changed and I understood since long ago that I DESERVE AN EXTRAORDINARY LIFE and I AM WORTHY TO HAVE IT and I am having it already!!!! Embrace it! It is an amazing pathway to follow! THANK YOU BRENDON!! 🙏♥️

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  7. Everytime I feel empty inside and out I watch your videos. It has been 3 years and a half anf I never feel bored of them. ❤ you are an insperational person

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  8. Personal development – the never ending chance to improve not only yourself but also to attract opportunities and affect others. Knowing others is intelligence. Knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering is strength. Mastering yourself is true power. The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be. We believe we would succeed, and so we did. Maybe you guys might have seen me on other videos but anytime I write a comment, I always tell my story with it so people know why I am saying what I am saying 🙂 – also to keep inspiring other people because for me, reading other people's success journey is so motivating. 🙂 We own a cookie shop business in our college town. When we first started it, we were living in our car with very little direction, just a huge passion to be successful. We just graduated college as well. We started a cookie shop out of a local bagel shop in their off hours at night. We were living in our car in the parking lot of the shop at the time with my boyfriend, Bran. It was a crazy experience but it worked! We became a success! And how we have our first storefront location (a second launching soon!) We started it to fund a year long backpacking trip around the world and to be successful while living the life of our dreams.

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  9. Noticing. 🙌 And asking. 🌟 😎 😎 😎 Am I being congruent? Do my thoughts MATCH my words and are they aligned with my actions? What I love MOST about PERSONAL GROWTH is that EVERYDAY you have an opportunity to GROW and UP LEVEL your life. Can you imagine a world where this kind of knowledge is taught at a young age? More and more people are opening up their minds to these teachings. Brendon, good stuff, as always. In Gratitude with LOVE to ALL. 👍💕

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  10. I have the strange feeling that you can somehow predict when to upload the video that will perfectly match my current thinking. Is that a trick or you just developed an instinct ? 🙂

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  11. You always explain things exactly how I want to hear them and you really motivate me through all your videos.

    I respect all your work. Keep it up!

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  12. #3 was my favorite… feeling capable of doing something… saying "I know I can do this" is so powerful… try it sometime!

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  13. Congruence is where I fell off, and wasn’t living into the best of who I was, because I was saying yes to other people’s priorities.

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  14. This is my favorite video of yours, Brendon! I honestly relate to everything you mentioned and these words of encouragement will stick with me for a long time! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with all of us. XO ❤️

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  15. This video was so helpful. I needed this message today. I didn't know what was bothering me and this helped me pinpoint my issue. Now I can heal
    Thank you

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  16. Dear Brendon,
    Thank you. Lately I've felt like things are grey and for some reason I find it deeply upsetting. Keep trying to escape. I wanted color but thought Life didn't want that for me right now because maybe I need to learn to not cause harm, be more selfless, need to accept the situation, need to make amends, improve my communication and relationships, need to focus on selfless service and others' needs and maybe getting tested for not having enough compassion but…
    Your video provided another perspective that I can now consider.
    I do think peace of mind matters but at the same time I don't want my experience to be grey. I felt like when I told people about "grey", they didn't understand what I was perceiving or why I was resisting it. Now for you to use the same terms means so much to me. You understand. Thank you.
    I'm still not sure about the right perspective on my current situation, as things really aren't working. Maybe for me the answer is to be more selfless and to focus on not causing harm, even if I'm alone or not where and with whom I want to be… Maybe I have to work on myself until it's safe to others to be around me. But even if that's the answer, it's still nice to at least come across another point of view that I can consider. That's what this video was for me. I have much to think about.
    Kind regards

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  17. Big L💞VE for another amazing life lesson. 🙏 You've been my hero and virtual mentor for more than 3 years and you've helped me grow so much. I hope I get to meet you soon… USA, Puerto Rico or another magic place on this world. Who knows? Best of health so you can keep performing at this extraordinary level at least 20+ years from now.

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  18. I shared this video to my students♥ plus you're getting great day by day Brendon. I saw a clear evolution in your youtube videos since the day one. Thank you for attempting to make our lives extra-ordinary!

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  19. i love this positive video. Congruence towards your ideal version of yourself is vital in life. believe that you deserve the extraordinary growth and success in life.

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  20. This Vid came in the right, the best possible time. I am broken…I was broken. I am worthy of being superb and leaving behind whats dragging me back. Thanks, Brendon!

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  21. I've needed this lesson for so long. My confidence has gone from inspiring to barely there. I couldn't trace what exactly happened. Now I understand. I also understand what I must do. EVERYDAY. Congruence and alignment are the main factors of my happiness, my peace. Brendon….What a blessing you are!

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  22. The best motivated video I have ever seen. I hope that there will be more videos like this in the future. Thanks a lot for your significant contribution to society.

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  23. Oof… I've not been attempting to be congruent with the best version of myself lately and have been definitely feeling it. Time to make some changes and incorporate the belief into my life!

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  24. ❤Brendon and ❤Denise
    God bless
    and Happy Valentines Day

    1st Corinthians 13:1-13

    LOVE BROKE THRU -song
    Toby Mac – artist
    Wolf Eagle – channel

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  25. Hey great video once again.. am a fan for a while and you have helped a lot improve my life.. I usually never comment on videos but you are the most positive person I have seen and great work.. thanks

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  26. Thank You Brendon for making this great video. So true. There was a time I use to think that life just happened to me. I am grateful for all those great souls who planted the seeds in my life that I can create my life and everything is possible if I belief. Bright Blessings!!!

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  27. Love this!! so in alignment I amped up end of year X 10 X infinity and keep pushing myself. I also added about 4 months ago I am worthiness and I am deserving statements!!! LOVE this!

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  28. I am worthy of freedom in all forms. Time, Location, Passion, Purpose, Financial Freedom! . I am worthy of being pursued and best friends, partners in purpose and amazing lovers with my future husband (in creators hands!)

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  29. I felt you were talking straight to me ,I got so much to learn starting with aiming high having self worth and having that extraordinary life ,thank you !

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  30. I love your videos Brendon. HELP I am very much into personal development since a few years but How can I get my husband to do so? I tell him about it try to be an ‘example’ but I feel he gets lazier, bigger and grumpier 🙈 I love him to peaces but wish he would ‘grow with me’!

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  31. This is better than therapy! thank you for sharing and for putting your message out. Your words are just what one need when having a tough day or week! Thanks

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  32. This resonated with me. I am worthy of an exceptional and joyful life, I am deserving of extraordinary success. I think another great video would be some tips on how to cultivate those belief systems, whether through affirmations or other ways. Even just typing it up and saying it to myself is powerful. Would love if other people shared what works for them. Love your videos, Brendon.

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  33. This is awesome and I needed this review, Teach! May I share something a little extra? In Ayurveda there is a mantra, "So Hum" and it means "I Am That" or "I Am The Divine." Meaning, "I have everything I'll ever need, within." When I get all wonky and out of sorts I practice it like this: inhale (through the nose, mouth closed) and think "soooooo" — on the exhale (through the nose, mouth closed) I think the word "huuummm." So hum, so hum, so hum. I am worthy, I am the divine, I am on path, I got this. So hum, so hum, so hum. I AM THAT! Love you and thanks for everything.

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  34. I literally wrote all over my wall in front of my desk "I am worthy and deserving of owning 2 lambos, 2 ferraris, 2 yachts, 27 properties, taking my wife to $7,309/meal restaurants, having a $14 billion investment portfolio. My wife and family and i have a magical, abundant and extraordinary life!!" Brendon, I heard about you 3 days ago from a friend that went to FHL. God bless you. I deserve to and will impact millions of people to become better and unstoppable as well! We will meet soon Brendon, you will be on my podcast. I deserve it and am worthy of having you on it! Talk soon 🙂

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  35. 🤯 this one… whoa! I am worthy of living an extraordinary life! Congruence, capability, worthy! Requesting a part 2, guiding questions/steps to discern and strengthen these affirmations. 🤓

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  36. If IM NOT DOING the WORK, I dont believe Im worthy…Im not worthy and thats why I dont do the work…
    so simple…real…true. So then the question is WHY are u not doing the work????

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  37. Thank you Brandon! I recently was promoted & this video helped me recognize that given enough time & resources, that I can achieve what I am deserving of! I love this video!

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